investments.

If you invest in something do you expect something in return?
Normally you do, right? Well, I learned that people can be the best and worst investment ever.
In my Advanced Interpersonal Theory class we learned that many Americans will be lucky to have even ONE person in their life who they can fully self-disclose to. Basically that means it's almost close to impossible to find one person who you can be completely transparent to and if you do find that person you are one in a rarity. If you do find that one person you can be transparent to- don't let go of that person because that would be considered a good investment.


Anyways, I feel like I still have a lot of learning to do when it comes to investing in the right people, but I guess that is how you learn and grow-through mistakes you make.


Not finished with my thought, but gotta run to class so....[to be continued]
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Okay, back from class and back from my day. Continuing on...

During different stages of my life, I've had friends who I could fully self-disclose to. Throughout college it's been hard to find friends who stick, which is why I've been so hesitant on making new friends. However, I overcame my hesitancy and made some AWESOME friends this past semester! I've been blessed though. Why? Because I've had at least one friend throughout my entire life who I can fully self-disclose to. I consider myself extremely blessed. But the self-disclosure theory is so true, it IS hard to find people who you can be extremely transparent with.

I think I just trust in people too easily so when they end up disappointing, I get hurt and lose faith in people. It's a vicious cycle. I need to get out of it, be a little selfish with myself, and stop depending on people so much.

So is it selfish to hold back a little until you see some investments/returns being made on you? I'm gonna say no, which brings me to this conclusion: from now on I'm going to try to be more cautious, take my time, and be a little selfish. haha!

The events of this past week made me think a lot about people, friends, and strangers in the past and in the present. I think people (including myself) expect people around us to think like we do; however, in reality it's hard to find like-minded people. This is the exact reason why I keep getting burned by friends who I thought shared something deeper, but turns out I was the only one thinking that. You can't expect people to think the way you do.

[I feel like I'm writing in circles right now... I can't seem to organize my thoughts. One reason why I hate blogging- because I ramble on too much.]

SO, to sum up this circular writing of mine:

• Don't invest in something that won't give anything back in return. [unless you already know it won't yield anything in return]
• People can be the best and worst investments.
• You'll be luck to have even ONE person who you can fully self-disclose to & if you find one, don't let go. (I'm not gonna let go!)
• I trust in people way too easily-need to STOP. I think it's only because I like to give people the benefit of the doubt and truly BELIEVE in them. BOY am I wrong sometimes.
• Don't expect people to think the way you do.
• It's hard to find like-minded people.

Tomorrow I'm going to read this post and regret it because this post makes no sense. and then I'll probably delete it.